Category: Community

  • 100 Years of Grandma

    100 Years of Grandma

    Today would’ve been my grandma’s 100th birthday.

    Hard to believe. I was born when she was 49, and somehow, I always thought she’d outlive us all.

    Grandma, Anni and Stephan "Steve" Wessels as King and Queen of Cincinnati Kolping's Schützenfest in 1963-1964.
    Grandma, Anni and Stephan “Steve” Wessels as King and Queen of Cincinnati Kolping’s Schützenfest in 1963-1964.

    Lately, I’ve been spending more time at Kolping Haus — the community hall tucked into Cincinnati’s West Side that I grew up believing my grandma at least partially owned. That’s how often she was there. And how comfortable she was in that space. She worked so hard there (really everywhere she went). She was tough, fast and thorough. Other Germans would say to me (like one did a few nights ago), “Your Grandma was one hard worker.”

    For decades, my grandma, Anne Conrad (or Anne Wessels, as she was known shortly before my birth) and to throngs of people both here and in Germany as “Tante Anni” (she was everyone’s “Aunt Anni”) practically lived (and did for a while after my first grandpa died and before I was born) at Kolping. She was part of everything—events, festivals, lots and lots of cooking in the kitchen, bingo night, you name it. She was also the president of the Women’s Auxiliary and in 1963, Schützenfest Queen (along with my grandfather, Stephan, who died before I was born). And during Schützenfest, Cincinnati’s oldest German festival that brings the Cincinnati-German spirit into full bloom, she worked tirelessly for hours in the kitchen preparing the food they’d sell to raise money. Every year. Like clockwork.

    I’d tag along when I was a kid. I’d help my step-grandfather, Chris Conrad, set up the festival’s public address system, test the microphone and later act as an announcer during the festival. I also remember feeling special because I was with Grandma, and Grandma knew everyone. It seemed everyone there was her buddy. I remember I could walk up to people I thought were strangers and simply say, “Do you know where my Grandma is?” And they inevitably pointed me in her direction.

    This year, after nearly two decades (maybe more; I’ve lost count) of being a member and doing barely anything to contribute, I signed up to volunteer for the entire Schützenfest weekend. Every day. Friday through Sunday. You’ll find me in the über-German “LaRosa’s Pizza Booth,” because that’s where they needed the most help. And because I miss her.

    When I started attending the general membership and the festival prep meetings, I didn’t expect anyone to remember her. It’s been four years since she passed, and even more years since I stopped taking her to meetings. She used to love to go but stopped wanting to go when she couldn’t remember the names of the people she’d known since she immigrated here in 1954. Her Alzheimer’s was getting worse, and though she’d never fully admit it, she was embarrassed. She died on May 10, 2021, a month shy of her 96th birthday.

    But something struck me this year, and I asked if I could get involved. I felt the time was right to act on something I had wanted to do for years. Emery, Nicole, my cousin Marianne and I helped out for a few hours two years ago in the pastry booth and Emery totally loved it. She’s been requesting to help out again ever since. Another good reason to help out. (Emery will be helping out, too, all weekend.)

    “Who was your grandma?”

    So, I sat in the meetings. Some faces looked familiar, but very few names. I doubted whether anyone would know me. But then someone would ask how I got involved, and I’d talk about going there as long as I could remember, about the home movie of me eating a hot dog, sitting on a picnic bench when I was a toddler, my sister nearby in a stroller, during Schützenfest.

    Then some would ask, “Who was your grandma?”

    I’d say, “Anne Wessels. Or Anne Conrad.”

    And then came the smile. The laugh. The recognition. They remembered. One person started to well up — which made me do the same.

    “Oh, Tante Anni! I loved Tante Anni!”

    It turns out, even long after you’re gone, if you’ve poured enough of yourself into a place — fed enough people, joked with enough people, were kind to enough children, filled enough bellies, made enough memories — you’re never really gone.

    Happy 100th, Grandma. I’ll be in the pizza booth if you’re looking for me.

    They were short on booth sponsors this year, so I decided to have a booth dedicated to my Grandma and Step-Grandfather. He was also a guy I shared a lot of good times with, and we had some similar interests, like setting up that PA system. This sign will appear on the soda and water booth. He died in February 1996, and I miss him often.

    Memorial Booth sponsorship plaque for the 2025 Cincinnati Kolping Schützenfest at the soda/water booth. This is my Grandma and Step-Grandfather, Anni Wessels-Conrad and Chris Conrad
  • Budding Photographer Adventures: Teaching the kid to shoot

    Budding Photographer Adventures: Teaching the kid to shoot

    Emery loves going downtown, which is one clear determinant she is my kid. And there’s another one: I think she is digging photography.

    After her camp ended for the day, we decided to break in her new point-and-shoot camera and start building a skill I’ve loved since I was just a little bit older than her (I got my first SLR for my 13th birthday — a prized used Nikon EM with a couple of basic lenses).

    With a summer full of camps, adventures and general kid-level chaos now and ahead, I wanted her to be able to capture some of it for herself. We haven’t gone deep on the art of photography just yet — aperture, shutter speed, and ISO can wait — but we have talked about how to compose a shot, what makes a good shot and how sometimes the best photo is the one you didn’t mean to take.

    After a short lesson on how to turn it on, frame a photo and avoid taking a picture of part of your finger (the basics), she was off and running. She took to it fast and was darting around the square looking for her next great shot before I’d even taken the turned my own point and shoot on.

    Also worth noting: I bought myself a nearly matching point-and-shoot. I figured it’d be more fun to shoot alongside her, and both of our cameras can go underwater, which, yes, we already tested out. The verdict? Very cool. Expect more aquatic shots as the summer heats up.

    The photos posted here are all mine for now, but I hope Emery permits me to share some of hers soon. Based on what I’ve seen, she has a great eye.

    Stay tuned.

  • OK, fine. The Mercantile Library is awesome.

    OK, fine. The Mercantile Library is awesome.

    It took me way too long to get back to the Mercantile Library downtown. But I finally made it today, and wow. It’s still one of the best-kept secrets in Cincinnati—though maybe not for long. And I guess I’m OK with that.

    I’ve technically been a member for more than 20 years, ever since my friend and mentor, the late Dr. Emil Dansker, took me there one afternoon. I was blown away by the place and joined on the spot. Since then, I’ve told a few people about it, but I also used to joke that I’d never share too much, because I loved how quiet, quirky and relatively unknown it was. Like a secret clubhouse for the curious-minded Cincinnatian. But with its recent renovation and expansion, I think it’s finally time to let the cat out of the bag.

    The Mercantile just completed a significant more-than-$5 million upgrade, taking over the entire 12th floor of its historic downtown building and nearly doubling its footprint. There’s now a gorgeous custom-built staircase connecting the two floors (it weighs 10 tons), along with cozy reading nooks, modern meeting rooms, quiet booths, a poetry room and lots of natural light. The blend of old-school charm and updated design is pitch-perfect.

    Founded in 1835 by a group of young merchants and clerks looking for an intellectual community, the library is still going strong and more welcoming than ever. It’s open to visitors, but you can become a member for $65 a year and get access to everything. It’s totally worth it.

    I took many photos during my visit today, and I’ll post a few in this post. If you’ve never been, make time. If you have, go again. And if you were one of the Mercantile people I once told, and I think specifically of the late director Albert Pyle, “Nah, I’m not sharing this on Facebook,” well… turns out it was time. My deepest apologies.

  • Why I won’t run for public office: Bill Moyers’ advice to me

    Why I won’t run for public office: Bill Moyers’ advice to me

    US journalist and commentator Bill Moyers
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    When I was first hired by The Cincinnati Enquirer in 1998 (my job interview was on day two of the Chiquita apology), I wasn’t sure if journalism was for me.

    My job was as a news aide, the equivalent of a “copy boy,” which meant I did tasks like answer the phone, sort faxes, pick up proofs at the now soon-to-be closed “Western” (the Western Avenue printing plant) and other tasks that I’d either invent for myself to do or get asked to tackle. Things like finally entering tubs (literally) full of birth announcements – months and even more than a year behind the actual birth. We used to joke that the kids themselves could have called in if there was a mistake and ask for a correction. They were that far behind.

    But the best part was who was working there with me. Night side at the Enquirer and the great folks on the copy desk, a few reporters I pestered to no end and a begrudging editor or two whetted my appetite even more and solidified my career goal. I wanted to be a journalist. But I had a dirty little secret: I’d once ran for public office.

    The Northwest Local School District – located in northwestern Hamilton County – school board was my goal. I was 19 years old and a recent Colerain High School, a school in the district, graduate.

    School board races, by state law, are non-partisan. Though affiliations are often touted and known by the public, officially they don’t exist. So, I didn’t run with any political party’s backing or even knowing one member of the local political scene. And I lost. Big time.

    Wessels for School Board canvassing flier (1993)

    I came in ninth – out of 10 on the ballot (plus one write-in). But I did get 3,325 votes (6.2 percent), about 3,450 shy of the third-place finisher, Helga Schwab (12.6 percent), an incumbent. Dan Mecklenborg – a leader of a movement, pretty sure the first, that was an organized opposition to a school levy – came in second. (It’s worth noting Mecklenborg was an early leader in a movement that spawned COAST, the Coalition Opposed to Additional Spending and Taxes). I take solace in the fact that I was the last serious vote-getter. The guy on the ballot who finished last had about 1,197 votes. The person above me, Bruce Gehring, a current school board member, garnered about 4,750 votes.

    A few people at the paper knew my political background secret and someone at the Enquirer, I can’t remember who exactly, told me I might not want to bring that up as I attempted to land the critical reporting internship and eventually a job. So, I didn’t. That was until someone found the column that former Enquirer reporter John Eckberg wrote about me at the time, photocopied and posted it all around the newsroom, including in the restrooms. It was a good-hearted jab at me – that made me slightly apprehensive.

    After I lost the election I was invited by the Colerain Township Republican Club to get involved. They were the only ones who asked, so I did. They assured me they could help me get elected next time. That was even after a then-current school member and prominent youth pastor – who had a penchant for crying at the drop of a hat – had clandestinely asked me to drop out of the race on behalf of some community members and others in the race, promising similar later success. I flatly turned him down. That was not what democracy was all about, I told him.

    Politics had soured me somewhat and, among other distractions and interests, by 1996 I was working at my college newspaper. It was, I rationalized, my first true love (I did a quasi-internship at WKRC-AM in 1992 and watched everyone there get fired after they were purchased by their former rival, Jacor, parent of WLW-AM).

    But parts of me were always conflicted. I ran for office, even at 19, because I wanted to make a difference. School boards managed kids, so, I felt an adult closest in age to one of those kids ought to be on the school board. Despite this assertion, I was repeatedly told I was too young – something that still irks me to this day. This idealism doesn’t die easily. I still have it.

    In 2004 I attended the Society of Professional Journalists’ national convention in New York City. The closing session’s keynote speaker was former White House press secretary for President Lyndon Johnson and journalist, Bill Moyers.

    After his rousing speech to the journalists – many of whom came to their feet – he stuck around and signed autographs and chatted with the crowd that had encircled him in the hallway outside the convention hall. I approached him to ask a question that had been bugging me ever since I slipped from politician to journalist. He was a person I thought possibly best suited to answer this question.

    “Mr. Moyers, I ran for office once. Now I am a journalist. Where do you think I can have the biggest impact on my community? What should I do?,” I asked him.

    He actually paused, among the chaos around him and looked right at me.

    “Keep being a journalist,” he said. “You can make a much bigger impact there.”

    It was the confirmation I needed from a man whose work I truly respected. I was best being a journalist. I can still care about my community, shine light where light needs to be shined and not be in political office. It felt good to hear that.

    It was noted to me that a local political reporter was so good at what he does because he just simply didn’t care about who was who in politics – he just loved the fight. I found out later he helped organize unions before he was a journalist. And he doesn’t care? He has to care, I thought, but maybe his writing and his reporting doesn’t show it. That’s more important.

    As journalists we pick and choose the stories we tell. Before that, we pick and choose the aspects of the story we share. That is the very nature of what we do. We judge the facts and make a decision about which facts get included. Bias? Sure. But I think the best reporters actually listen, observe, talk to all sides and try to share all aspects of the issue, event or whatever. In the end, the readers are ultimately the ones who decide. This has been my “angle,” if you will, since I have been writing for newspapers. Integrity, I guess. I do it because I care about my community, schmaltzy as it sounds. This is the overriding factor in why I want to create a new, non-partisan, non-ideological news source for Cincinnati. Because we need it.

    And even though I get asked from time to time, sometimes seriously and most of the time in passing, I will not be seeking public office. Not now; not ever. But it’s not because I don’t care. It’s because I do. And I will keep trying to hold those elected and other community leaders accountable whenever I can through finding the stories that matter and expose the people and the decisions they make.

    So, thank you for thinking of me. But I am fine right here where I am. In the end, it’s probably better for me – and maybe better for you.

  • Event Friday discusses the narcissism of social media users

    Event Friday discusses the narcissism of social media users

    Recently, I asked to be subscribed to a local list of interesting things to do called “Tri-State Treasures,” curated by Jim Kesner. It was after a friend shared a copy of her copy of the weekly email.

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    It’s chock-full of little events and happenings in town that seem to be missing from other places – plus notices about the usual or more widely-publicized ones. It’s only been about a month since I started receiving it and I have been very pleased with what I have found, including this little gem I got today about discussion around social media. I, of course, was interested and laughed out loud when I read the description:

    Social Networking – Discussion [Friday 17 June @ 6:30pm]: The Association for Psychoanalytic Thought presents this discussion featuring William Wetly & Matt McBride. Mr. Welty will focus on how online social networking & interaction is characterized by narcissism, leading to both antagonistic & self-punishing superego relationships which, within that framework is the possibility of obscene jouissance. Mr. McBride will examine how Facebook, as a medium, is constituted & how it uniquely serves to facilitate a kind of hysteria. Drawing on cultural theories, Matt will explain why Facebook is a departure from previous media & how those differences rob users of their subjectivity in ways heretofore unseen in earlier media. Free admission. Wine & cheese reception @ 6:30pm; discussion @ 7pm. At Cincinnati Psychoanalytic Institute, 3001 Highland Avenue, Cincinnati, OH 45219. More info at 513.531.0415 & AssnPsaThought at aol.com.

    I can’t wait! I’m going to be there and very much look forward to hearing what they have to say. What about you? It’s free! I just created a Facebook Event, too…

  • Cincinnati and Hamilton County Election Night coverage using Qik video

    I will be running around downtown Cincinnati – including the Hamilton County Board of Elections and various campaign victory parties – reporting on what I am seeing using Qik video. Check out the video below to see the latest:

    http://qik.com/joefoto
  • Taming the mighty Mill Creek

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    Tomorrow I embark on an adventure few in this area would ever consider doing – canoeing down the Mill Creek.

    It won’t be my first time. The last time was May 1, 2007 when we left from Spring Grove Avenue and got out near the Ohio River – in utter filth. What I learned on that trip is that the Mill Creek is in much better shape than it has been since the introduction of industry along its banks. Though it can change from day-to-day, the water for 90 percent of its length is safe for humans to be in and around, which was never the case years ago. That’s why you – if you’re from the Greater Cincinnati area – are probably aghast at what I have done and plan to do again tomorrow.

    I was also surprised to find an abundance of life living in and around the creek, including spawning fish, snakes and turtles. I saw rushing rapids flowing over resistant rocks, creating a gorgeous display of one of nature’s enduring beauties – a moving stream. Above us and around us were highways with trucks and cars, plus railroad tracks with giant locomotives moving in and out of town. Along side us were closed factories, a wheat mill, a rail yard and a sewage treatment plant. There were also beautiful tall, green grasses and other vegetation that did not seem to know that common knowledge says they should not be there. All that touches the Mill Creek dies. Not so anymore, apparently.

    Trash in the Mill Creek near the Ohio River
    Trash in the Mill Creek near the Ohio Rover

    Tomorrow, I will be hosted again by Commodore Bruce Koehler, a member of the “Mill Creek Yacht Club,” a tongue-in-cheek “organization” of people who are passionate about our local environment, study it and can teach us about what we are seeing. Dr. Mike Miller, a University of Cincinnati professor of aquatic ecology, will also be on the trip again. His insights are instrumental in educating the trip’s partipants on the transformation of the Mill Creek watershed and what it once was before that much-needed makeover.

    We are taking a different trip than last time. This time we are starting farther north, in Sharonville, and ending up in Reading. The whole trip is about 6 1/4 miles and is expected to take about five hours. I plan to bring a notebook, my Tevos, a video camera and a still camera. For now, though, check out the beautiful – and some disturbing – photos from the 2007 trip. Click on the above photo to be taken to the Flickr set.

  • Sunday morning tune

    Caught Lorna Parson of Sharonville this morning as she tapped the keys on a “Play me, I’m Yours” piano on the lawn of the Wyoming Arts Center in Wyoming.

    She was playing “Yankee Doodle” from a beginner’s piano lesson book and said she was attempting to hit all 35 pianos before the program officially ends on September 17. She has got her work cut out for her – she only has made it to 10 so far.

    “I got a late start,” she said.

    Parson said she is not an accomplished player, but enjoyed the experience of playing at the public pianos. Learn more about the program, including the plan to donate the pianos to local schools and needy students needing a piano, at their Web site by clicking this link: http://oncincy.com/ahIlGd

    Lorna Parson of Sharonville plays at a "Play Me, I'm Yours" piano outside the Wyoming Fine Arts Center in Wyoming.

  • Queen City Discovery: The Clifton Friars Club

    As my previous post said, I have an interest in discovering unknown parts of Cincinnati.

    So, this morning I was happy to see Queen City Discovery’s post exploring the demolition site of The Cincinnati Friar’s Club in Clifton Clifton Heights.

    “…the Cincinnati Friars club dated back to 1860 and serves as an organization that provides outreach to disadvantaged children through physical activity. The club relocated and abandoned this structure in 2006. Demolition had just begun earlier that week as “Cincinnati’s 8th Precinct” began climbing over the rubble into what remained of the Friars Club.

    via Queen City Discovery: The Clifton Friars Club.

    There are some great photos on their site. Click over and check it out.

    (NOTE: There are a couple references in the blog post that make no sense to me. “Cincinnati’s 8th Precinct” would one. Is this an inside joke? A reference to themselves or the Friar’s Club as a place for troubled children? I have no idea. Would be nice if the author(s) cleared that and a few other things up.)

  • Track-walker children in Mariemont

    Track-walker kids

    I got this shot in Mariemont over the weekend. Liked it, so wanted to share.

    I was checking out an old, what appeared to be, foundry near the tracks which I discovered just driving around checking out parts of our town that I have never known before. It’s a hobby and feeds my insatiable curiosity.

    Abandoned and laden with graffiti, the building is about half covered in green-leaved vines. The kids I ran into said they had no idea what it used to be, suggesting either a water tower (which seemed unlikely because of all the windows) or a train station (which also seemed unlikely because it is probably 50-feet high from the foundation – which is elevated about 20 feet from the tracks – with no easy in and out points).

    Anyone have an idea or actually know the building’s former or intended use?